Drama, anyday!

It is human nature to crave for the things we do not have and the moment we get them to moan about calling them upon ourselves.

The majority of us love drama. We absolutely love it when things take a dramatic turn in our lives, a little hay wire is only enjoyed more.

Take this conversation for example:
'I'm so bored now, I cannot live with myself. How I wish I did not break up!'
'Oh my,you have no idea what you're saying. He treated you like a door mat. I'm so glad you are out of it.'
'Well yes, but you know, now that I don't have him I'm starting to realise that I liked my life more when he was in it. He gave me shit, but then at least something was happening in my life. He made me cry, we fought... but my life was eventful.'

I could not believe this. Here was a person who just got freedom from a bondage that could have scarred her for life (and maybe already has in tiny ways)sitting next to me, telling me she wants it all back! Seriously? Why in the world would anyone want to get back into something that was full of lame fights and arguments, which at the end of the day made her feel horrible?

Soon enough I realized why. She missed the attention she was showered with. She missed being the reason to mess up some body else's mood and day. She missed having so much control and power over some one else. She missed being such an important part of someone else's life.

People will tell you being single is the most sensible way to be. If yes, then why are all these people in relationships? If it really is so sensible, I say walk out of your relationship. But no. One relationship after the other, they go on and on to have more.

Apart from the fact that as humans we have it in us to love and be loved, we also thoroughly love the drama that enfolds when we are in a relationship. Even if it makes us feel miserable, we would still rather have the drama than not have any of it at all. Please, don't deny this!

After all, they are People

People, I think form one of the most mind-boggling topics of discussion. Why do people behave the way they do? Understandably so, the nature versus nurture debate is one of my favourites.

In every group that we are a part of there are always some people we get along with, some others with whom we share a superficial relationship, others who we feel are from a different planet and those few who we can never get along with, simply because they are not our type.

As human beings, with our strong instincts of segregation, we always form smaller groups within the big group that we are a part of. Why is it never possible for us to be extremely close to that whole, big group? Smaller groups are formed when we meet those people who are our kind and so we can easily get along with. Or in other words, people of the same wave length as ours.

When talking to another person comes effortlessly, we know that we have met our kind. We then go on to form a group consisting of all those people who are our kind. Once this group is made, everyone else not belonging to our group becomes the 'others'. The others are treated differently from the people of our group. The others are never invited to go out with us for a day of fun. We do not go crying to the others when we need help. We do not keep the others informed about everything in our lives and so on.

We cannot be best friends with everyone now, can we? So these demarcations that we make between our group and the others are acceptable. Here is what is not acceptable: making a face when the other comes to our territory, acting indifferently when the other tries to make friends with us because we are scared she/he is trying to join our group, making a big deal when one person from our group invites one of the others to one of our group plans...and the like.

Why is it so hard for us to accept 'other' people, the moment we form our own groups? Yes, there is what we call a comfort zone that we form with the people we get along with but does that mean that the others should be treated with antagonism?

Treating others with indifference is something that is practiced more passionately among girls. Boys, I've noticed are not so indifferent when it comes to treating the others. For some reason boys are very open to others joining their groups. This explains why we can always find boys who belong to many groups. They have multi identities depending on various groups they are a part of. Girls however are usually, quite distinctly part of one group. This one group defines their identity and mostly, mingling with others is a taboo!

To treat everyone as our own is asking for too much. I guess the least we can do is to make the others feel comfortable when around us by not making them feel like there is a wall dividing them from us. After all, they are people.